Who This Work Is For
You’re good at your job. People rely on you. But lately, you’ve started wondering why you feel so tired every night when, on paper, you’re doing fine.
Most people who reach out are looking for a new job or role. I help with those transitions when they’re needed. But we always start by looking at where the exhaustion is actually coming from, and it’s rarely from the work itself. It’s almost always from the constant internal effort required to function at a high level in environments where support is unreliable.
That kind of effort might look like:
- Preparing for meetings more thoroughly than anyone else does
- Replaying conversations to check whether you said something wrong
- Documenting everything because you don’t fully trust that anyone will back you up if things go sideways
- Monitoring your tone, your reactions, your carefully worded emails
You don’t do this because you’re insecure. You do it because you don’t want to be misjudged or misunderstood.
This page is here to help you understand how I work, so you can decide if reaching out makes sense.
I work with people whose exhaustion doesn’t come from lack of skill. It comes from the amount of effort it takes to feel secure when support isn’t reliable.
How We Work
We begin by looking at the strategies you developed to protect yourself, and how much effort those strategies still require.
The goal isn’t to dismantle your approach prematurely. It’s to understand what’s still protecting you, and what’s just quietly draining you.
What Changes
Over time, this work changes how much effort it takes to function at work. Sometimes for real change to happen, the environment needs to change first. But either way, the internal effort has to shift, or the pattern will repeat itself.
What Happens If It Doesn’t Change
The pattern doesn’t resolve on its own. You might change jobs, change roles, even change careers, and find yourself just as exhausted six months later. Because the effort you’re going through isn’t directly tied to the role. It’s tied to the strategy you developed to protect yourself. Until that internal dynamic shifts, the exhaustion will follow you.
What This Work Isn’t
My work isn’t about acceptance, optimism, or convincing you that the right mindset will make things easier.
And it’s not about urgency. We will work at a pace that will allow your understanding to develop without forcing conclusions or premature action.
How We Start
If you reach out, we’ll start with a brief no-charge conversation. Not an assessment, just a chance to talk about what’s been wearing you down, and whether working together makes sense.
You don’t need to prepare, justify why you’re reaching out, or explain things perfectly.
I work with people in Connecticut and nationwide via telehealth.
If you’d like to talk, you can reach out here.
